Well Yana..u were concerned about why do most guys treat their gurl so well in the beginning...and do not bother later. Im not sure if dat was supposed 2 be 'most' guys. If many girls think so itz 'most'..den owyte leave it. There won't be an issue in gender discrimination aniwae cuz most blog readers are girls. Nyahar..ok wadever just start.

In my general point of view...probably after some time guys do not really bother about their gurl bcuz...

1. He took love for granted. In his mind..he always think dat, "Oh my gurl had always been loving me...she had always been taking good care of herself so I don't think there's a need 2 call her now."
2. Like u also said...the guy is duin fine without her, thinking dat by just not playing behind her back..is good enuf.
3. Worst..they treat r'ship as more of a status..rather than expecting for more love 2 nourish.

Naturally...at early stage of a r'ship, love is BLOOMING. So datz where the 24/7 calls come about, the hike in sms bills, and the guys running broke after buying many gifts. But they say...there's no end 2 feeling in love..it shud continue 2 bloom as they are together.

Letz take the gurl 2 be PERFECT...so ideally the guy shud continue 2 express his love for her with some form of RESPECT, instead of showering her with tons of gifts till he forgets when is their actual annivesary.

Wad I meant by 'respect', is...at least the guy gives her a call 2 show dat he cares or 2 see if she's duin well without his presence..or when she wants 2 talk about the problem, at least dun reply sarcastic remarks 2 her...she needs dat listening ear okay.

And wad do I meant by 'perfect' for the gurl's part? When she wants 2 talk about the problem 2 him...at least don't start SCREAMING at him...be tolerant and patient...always start wit a nice sayang tone and save the 'screaming' till de very end.

So in the end..if both parties are being understanding, this problem can easily be solved.

But...what if things are still the same??

Well then..I can't really give a definite answer..cuz nobody can't see a particular issue as the same problem throughout. At least according 2 our different exposures, each of us definitely has a different answer due 2 experiences.

Let me share u smth about diz guy...his name is Boy. (the name is fictional)

Boy broke up from his r'ship..and only after he found out dat he had a miserable lovelife. He knew dat the beginning was full of splendid romance..but in the end it turned out 2 be sour. Since many months b4 the break-up, he was already disappointed with his gf. He chose the wrong path..that is 2 continue in the rship...hence he hurt her as he went on. Thereafter broke her heart..after he no longer bothered.

From the story, i'm tryin 2 tell u dat...sometimes it might be the girl's side of problem too which made him bother less about her. Just dun be self-centred..avoid having the thinking dat others are givin u the problem cuz u may not know that u're actually de one who is the problem. And before u start blaming on others, first settle the problem in urself. If u r a guy who has already have this built-in ego in u, try not 2 develop anymore a "world of ur own".

When each of us can recognize, and learn 2 accept our own weaknesses and mistakes...we can therefore deal problems better in r'ships.

Well Yana...probably, if u both communicate well..then there shudn't be a problem 2 work things out. The least others can do, like me, are giving opinions and a share of experiences. Whereas the many things which can further be helped, lies in the both parties. (the both of u) Most importantly, u ought 2 continue communicating wit him..and avoid urself being ridden away wit ur train of emotions..erm..probably..ur anger? Hehe..have patience owryte? He still loves u..probably he takes everything for granted and hence he seems didnt bother much about u...so wake him up..

Mutual COMMUNICATION is the key!

Cey I say all these like as if i'm really practising em 100%! Haha...owryte at least Yana woke up some senses in me. Dear Kikie..sorry if I had bother u less all this while. So next time onwards..I make sure i'll rrRReeally BOTHER u okiez?

Hiak hiak! Oh man..I just love 2 be annoying. =)